Have you ever thought about it?

Ever felt left out?

You were close with certain someone/group. Then suddenly you feel like you're left out. You feel like you no longer understand the jokes they make, you feel like you do not know whats the latest gossip amongst them, you simply feel like you don't belong.

Then you will start thinking to yourself : "Sigh they/him/her don't like me anymore" OR "Sigh they/him/her don't call me out for movies/outings/whatever you guys used to do together anymore" OR you will just keep sighing/emo or you will just simply make up all sorts of excuses,reasons as to why are they leaving you out.

Truth is, are you being left out or did you choose to be left out?

We are all human. Your friends are human, my friends are human. Unless you live in some other planet where some other creatures are your friends.
The reason why people ask you out is because they CHOSE to be friends with you, they chose to spend more time with you, they chose to have fun with you. But most of the time YOU chose to say no. You chose to reject all those offers. No matter what reasons you may have, no matter what problems you have, no matter what shit is going on in your life, don't ever forget that other people have their own problems too.

It is absolutely fine if you cannot make it a few times,but if you were to turn them down 9 out of the 10 times that they ask you out, your actions might result in them being fed up/upset/dissappointed in you, and thus - Ta-DAH! No more phone calls/sms that says "Hey,wanna go out later?"

Ask yourself, is that what you really want? Well it might be a relief to some people, because they might find those offer irritating at times, but after a while, you will come to notice that you know nothing about your friends' life anymore. Absolutely nothing. ZERO.

Before you blame your friends for so called "abandoning" you or making you feel left out, why don't you start to think about what have YOU done.


This post is not a message to anyone in specific, but if you feel like you're not doing your job as a GOOD friend/cousin/son/daughter/parent/whatever, then perhaps you should start dialling the numbers on your phone at this very moment. :)